Dex/Merc is the right stuff. This could prove to be a tough nut to crack without a full unit autopsy. The more common and easier to cyber-diagnose failures tend to involve the complete loss of motion in one or more selector positions, with normal operation in the others. I just can't let go of the notion that this is a fluid pressure problem, though. Either too much, not enough, or within spec, but not happening at the right time. And fluid pressure is predominately controlled within the VB. Were you meticulous in your parts cleansing, especially with the VB...I mean to the point of being an anal retentive maniac in getting stuff clean? Are you sure you got all the check balls where they belong by size and location? I mean, you admit to getting one spring wrong. Isn't it possible that something else within the VB was assembled incorrectly? I'm just spitballing here. I've been inside these things up to my armpits a few times, but that by no means makes me an expert. I hate to say it, but I have an idea you'll be dropping this trans back out for another session on the bench before too much longer.